What if I told you that the only way to succeed in building new habits is to be aware of what is not going to happen once you start to perform your habits?
To build new habits you need to understand how habits work, it’s called the habit loop:
Once you understand how it works it will be easier to build new habits and even break old habits.
I would ask you to stay till the end of this post and try to process it slowly as this is a long post (full of information) but if you haven’t got much time on hand then you can download the free PDF below.
First, I understand there are a lot of articles out there that say how to build habits and provide actionable steps to work on building new habits.
But, the truth is you won’t stick to those action steps if you don’t start with the basics.
The Habit Loop
Every habit that you do, starts with a cue, a trigger that puts your brain on autopilot to perform those habits from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep.
Habits hold about 40% of your daily actions.
So, when you wake up in the morning and you start to go about your day there is only one cue that leads to other actions that you took.
To figure out the trigger be aware of when the habit starts, let’s say that you tend to use your phone right when you wake up to check out messages, social media, etc. so the cue, in that case, the phone is always near to you that it’s easy to grab it while you are on the bed.
Or, you wake up and the first thing you do is to grab food from the fridge, the cue is more likely to be that you go to the kitchen first thing when you wake up or in another case, the insulin levels drop.
Every cue that happens is always followed by an action or routine.
So, for the same first example above you use your phone and spend around 10 minutes scrolling and checking emails.
Or, for the second example, you walk to the kitchen, open the fridge and grab a cake and start to eat.
Your routine determine how habits work and whether they are good or bad habits.
Once the action is being completed you will gain an instant reward, that’s what your brain expects once it starts to work on a habit.
The first reward (following the examples above) is you saw the latest news, and replied to a friend.
The next reward is to satisfy hunger or it’s the only way to feel more awake.
The loop is originally explained in the How Habits Work and Why We Do the Things We Do by Charles Dughig
I summed it up as much as I can but if you want more details and more examples then you can get the book here
Now the important steps you need to take to build new habits are:
Focus on only one habit at a time, don’t overwhelm yourself with building too many habits at once.
You want to give 100% to this one habit, so choose wisely.
If you want to lose weight don’t start with exercising 1 hour every day you will less likely to stick with it, start with only 10 minutes a day.
Make it so easy that your brain hardly gets a chance to give excuses for not doing it.
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2-Break habits into small habits
After choosing which habits you want to work on, try to see if you can turn it into smaller habits.
Small habits are easier to stick to and will help you build bigger habits in the long run.
So for example, you want to read more books, don’t just start to buy all the books you can get, and start reading. Instead, you want to make reading a habit, especially if you are not keen on reading.
Turn it into smaller ones by reading on a Kindle or any online version you wish to use. This is an easy option for you if you spend too much time on your phone.
3-Form A trigger
Since you now know how habits work, it can be easy to figure out how to form a trigger to integrate a new habit.
If you want to form a habit of studying, a simple trigger can be putting a pen and a notebook on the desk where you can see it, and try to follow that pattern every time you study.
Your brain over time will understand once it sees the pen and the notebook it’s time to study.
Following a habit can be tricky at the beginning if you go about your day, so you want to set reminders around you.
This is not the same as forming a trigger as a trigger only works for your sub-conscience.
It’s more about your visual surroundings to keep you alert and to remind you to work on building a habit.
5-AutoMate Tiny Habits
Building a new habit with a habit you already have is the best way to let your brain work on its own without thinking it’s a new habit.
Say that you always drink water throughout the day (hopefully, you do) this is an automated habit, you can incorporate a new habit with the automated habit.
For example, every day when you drink water try to do a push-up, that’s if your goal is to exercise every day.
Think about it for a second if you drink at least 8 cups a day and do 3 push ups after every cup. that’s 24 push ups a day!
You can get more information about automated habits in the Atomic Habits book
6-Commit to 30 Day
One study said habits would take about 2 months to become part of your lifestyle and another study said it takes about 90 days.
But, the underline between the two studies is that you need to fully commit yourself in the first month to build up this new habit, it’s always the hardest month and the rest of the other months require more than self-discipline.
7-Never Miss Twice
To build a habit, you have to do it daily, but life gets in the way. This is why the habit tracker is essential when you try to build a new habit.
Habit tracker is a tracker of 30 days, each day you complete your habit put a check mark, if there is a day you miss make sure to not miss the next day.
The rule is to never miss a habit twice in a row.
8-Increase Your Habit by 1%
Your goal to work on building your habit every day, even if it’s only 1%.
You don’t have to do a 1-hour workout every single day instead, you can aim to do only 10 minutes, and the next week try to increase your workout by 5 more minutes.
Even if you can’t increase your habits and only aim for 1% a day, that’s 37% in a year!
9-Control Your Environment
To break a habit or build a habit for that matter is to control your environment, if you are trying to cut back on sugar, then you have to get rid of processed food, refined sugar, and to replace it with a healthy alternative.
Or, if you want to build a habit of studying then your environment should be focused on things that will help you to study more.
-You know as the old saying goes “out of sight, out of mind”.
10-Hold Yourself Accountable
While telling a friend or a family member about creating a new habit or your goals can get you motivated, there are some few rules to consider.
Being accountable will help you get back on track when the days get hard, but if you didn’t start building a habit and tell everyone about it, it will give your mind the satisfaction of doing something while in reality, you are doing nothing.
So, focus first on building the habit and when you need someone to push you further then you can start to share your goals about building new habits.
Building habits that stick doesn’t require self-discipline, it’s pretty much overrated when it comes to building habits.
What you need to do instead is to play around for what’s working with you, just because someone doing it that way doesn’t mean it will work for you. Instead, figure out how you can make it work for you.
If you don’t like going to the gym no matter how much you try to keep it fun, try to bring a partner with you, or, try to go late at night (if available)
It’s always about experimenting and if that doesn’t work keep on trying until you find that one thing that will make you stick to the habit.
12- Build Habits Apps
Step into the behavior of building new habits and the mind will follow.
Run your habits as an experiment, as with every experiment there are no failing, only different results.
Focus on easy, consistent habits that require no motivation.
Self-discipline is overrated when it comes to building new habits.